High Impact Couples Therapy
Date ad Time-
Friday, November 13, 20208:00 AM
Saturday, November 14, 20203:30 PM
Saturday, November 14, 20203:30 PM
Location- Smith College Conference Center49 College LaneNorthampton, MA USA
Professional Development Hours: 12 CE’s
About the Training
The secret to helping couples have a powerful, transformative experience in therapy is to get them to deeply explore—while in each other’s presence—their own character structure and family-of-origin trauma. For the therapist, this process involves six steps: arriving at the couple’s relational diagnosis, helping them articulate their repeating loops, getting the backstory of their childhood adaptation, imaginatively reparenting each inner child, loving confrontation, and helping each partner master new skills.
Six Steps of High Impact Couples Therapy:
- Form a relational diagnosis – where are they stuck?
- Articulate and feedback to the couple the repeating loop they’re mired in.
- Joining Through The Truth: Utilizing the art of lovingly confronting a client in a way that leaves him or her feeling more trusting and closer to you.
- Moving through stance into family of origin – Where did you learn this? How did this person’s particular Adaptive Child come into being?
- How to imaginatively bring the client’s younger Adaptive Child into the room to dialogue with the Functional Adult part of the self – separating or “unblending” them. Relational health comes when we equip our clients to love their inner parts and not foist them off on their partner to look after.
- Rebuilding/Reconnecting - How to use yourself to amplify progress, cut through both shame and grandiosity, reconnect closed hearts even in the face of great hurt, anger, or skepticism. This final step is about rebuilding the relationship, remembering who you are to each other, easing defenses, and aggressive behaviors, helping them learn to cherish one another.
Equip your clients with specific sophisticated relational skills:
- How to hold yourself in warm regard even when you mess up.
- How to have healthy boundaries.
- How to speak up for yourself with love and respond non-defensively, and with a generous heart.
In phase one, the goal is to invite our clients to wake up their dormant conscience, their wish to connect, or their courage to relax self-protection.
Phase Two is early childhood trauma work – in each other's presence
Phase Three is rebuilding the warm connection, learning again how to cherish each other, learning and practicing over and over again key relational skills.
About Terry Real
Terry Real is a nationally recognized family therapist, author, and teacher. He is particularly known for his groundbreaking work on men and male psychology as well as his work on gender and couples; he has been in private practice for over thirty years. Terry has often appeared as the relationship expert for Good Morning America and ABC News. His work has been featured in numerous academic articles as well as media venues such as Oprah, 20/20, The Today Show, CNN, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Psychology Today and many others.
In 1997 he published the national bestseller: I Don't Want To Talk About It, the first book ever written on the topic of male depression. That was followed by How Can I Get Through To You? an exploration of the role of patriarchy in relationships and, most recently, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work, a practical guide for couples and couples therapists.
Terry founded The Relational Life Institute, in Arlington, Massachusetts, dedicated to working with the general population to help women reclaim their voices and men open their hearts. The Institute offers a training program for therapists as well as workshops and trainings throughout the US and Canada.
Accommodations for the Differently Abled:
NCCT training facilities are handicap accessible. Individuals needing special accommodations, please contact Kerry.
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